Tips to Writing an Ode In the Memory of Someone You Love

Death is an experience, universal in nature. Writing about someone you love may prove cathartic, but to some, it’s plain hard. A theme that pulls at the very deepest and exposed of human feelings, no words can do justice to a lost life, but some come very close.

Words that Heal

Poetry is a tool that helps process loss, extremely effective in coping during grief and mourning. Not only does an ode to a lost soul act as an avenue of self-expression, it also renders a fitting memorial. While you may be busy with chores and such, taking time to write helps heal. Through the written word, a lot of the pain, suffering and loss transfers to what you write. The tips that follow should aid in your quest to write an ode to a lost loved one.

Tip #1 - Take Time                             

Death is a heavy subject, requiring language that puts you in a vulnerable position. You may not be ready to approach such a sensitive spiritual wound that is still fresh. Taking time to be ready is of the utmost importance. Before you organize your own thoughts, it’s better to take a while, getting mundane things out of the way, if necessary.

Tip #2 - Lay Bare Feelings

A death may cause us to move residence, and moving to a suburb from a town may be something that's required. Physical issues surrounding death can be resolved, but mental readiness must exist to pen feelings. It’s important not to hold anything back, without fear of letting go and seeing your feelings on paper. Memories may be good and bad, but may need to be written.

Tip #3 - Think of Purpose

Think of the poem's purpose, what you are trying to achieve or express. Are you writing an anecdote about your lost love, or is this your final adieu? Maybe you want to say something particular to the person deceased.

Be Calm and Share

Its important to remain composed, so you put down thoughts constructively on paper. If you feel anxious or remorseful, you can stop and continue later. Sharing your poetry with close loved ones who may have been close to the deceased, is a good idea to get over pain.

Thanks for reading,

Karen