Attending funerals and memorial services can be difficult for most of us. We find ourselves at a loss for words. Even the extroverts among us are left searching for the correct words. But silence can be equally damaging. Our silence can be misconstrued as our indifference. It is necessary to talk but maintain a low volume and polite tone at all times. As for what to say, we give you some sentences that can help you start a conversation.
" I am so sorry for your loss."
Say these words truthfully and with empathy. This short sentence will make you part of their grief. This sentence has the capacity to reducing the isolating feeling of family and friends.
"I feel fortunate to have known him/her."
If you had known the deceased person you can share your experiences with them. But know where to stop. Keep it short. You are not obliged to keep on talking on occasions such as these. Thoughtful silences are better than hurtful words.
"Let me know how I can help."
Say these words and follow them up with action. Remember that grieving people may find it tough to ask for help. Offer to arrange for a meal or pick up groceries. You can take the dog for a walk or offer to babysit the children in the family.
"You can call me anytime."
Very often loneliness kicks in after all the funeral formalities are over. It takes people some time to come to terms with their loss. It is here that a phone call or a visit helps. Your phone call can be comforting for the grieving person. It can also encourage them to call you back when they feel lonely.
"I keep thinking about you."
This can make them feel wanted. This will accelerate their healing process.
Sometimes the grieving person may not remember what you said, but they will remember your thoughtfulness.
Thanks for reading,
Karen
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